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Approaching someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s may not seem like a big deal. Believe me, it is a big deal.

Those most uncomfortable visiting someone with dementia are typically friends or family members who don’t get to visit their loved one on a regular basis.They are a little apprehensive as to what they should say and how they’re supposed to act with this person.

  • First make eye contact with them so they can actually see you face-to-face.
  • Get on their eye level. If they’re sitting down you either kneel or squat down directly in front of them.
  • If you want to hug them or shake their hand, tell them you would like to do so. They don’t like surprises.
  • Speak slowly. It gives them time to catch up with your words. They don’t process words like they did in the past.
  • Ask one question at a time but only who, what, when and where. Why is complicated and they can become frustrated.
  • Never say “remember” because they don’t remember. It’s a form of disrespect as well.
  • Don’t talk to them as if they are a child; they are adults and should be treated as such and with respect.
  • Validate their feelings. It lets them know they are not alone.
  • Interact with them by bringing old family pictures, cds with music they used to enjoy, or stuffed animals.
  • Don’t argue with them. You will never win and it causes frustration and agitation.
  • Don’t bring up topics that could upset them, it can lead to an argument.

This was valuable information I learned while caring for my mother.

Some of the most important information I learned was from the dementia expert, Teepa Snow. I can’t say enough about Teepa and the wisdom she brings to caregivers. If you are in a situation of not knowing how to cope with someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s I highly recommend visiting her website


3 thoughts on “Approaching A Person With Dementia

  1. Hi there… I know this story to well… my mother and grandmother.. both had alzheimer, in 2 different decade.. one in the 60’s and one was in 80-90’s. All of your points are so true, so real.. it was true in the 60’s as a pre teen(grandmother) and again in the 80’s as an adult (my mother) .. your points are so very valuable for caregivers.. Thank you for your words.. I hope it will help others … Keep blogging .. Adrienne

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